"What Cheating is to Me, May Not be Cheating to You"

Picture this...

Lying on your side in bed after intercourse, your hand rest on your forehead. While starring at your man as he smokes a cigarette you think to yourself "Damn, he's the best. Almost perfect! What more can I ask for?"

Yet, you know come tomorrow night you'll go back to living your double life; with a another man in a another bed. And, though you know your body belongs to only him, something about the double life that you live doesn't sit well within.

Cheating!! Where do I begin?

Let me start by defining Cheating as per www.thefreedictionary.com and for the purpose of this Blog I will focus on the following definitions:

a) To mislead; illusions that cheat the eye.
b) To act dishonestly; practice fraud.
c) Informal To be sexually unfaithful: cheat on a spouse.

Now, according to me, DkSknPosterGrl, cheating is when an individual who is already in a relationship has sexual intercourse and/or participates in sexually activities with someone other than their spouse/partner/significant other.

But, that is the most obvious definition for many. Cheating is way deeper than what meets the eye.

For example, If I'm in a relationship and I still go out on dates with other guys; is that cheating? What about if I spend leisure time with other guys; is that cheating? Or, if I put another mans feelings before the man that I'm in a relationship with; is that cheating?

Well, What's Cheating to Me; May not be Cheating to you. But I definitely feel that all of the above, plus way more scandalous things that both men and women do are considered cheating. And, I am sure that many of us are very guilty of committing these relationship offenses.

Cheating is more than sexual or physical. It can be emotional and verbal. You can even cheat with time. When you are spending time with another person, innocent or not; If your spouse, significant other or partner doesn't know then it's cheating. Otherwise, why don't they know??? Even deeper, if you are spending a lot of time at work and when you acutally do have time to spend with your significant other, if it isn't quality time, then it is the same as cheating. You are cheating them and yourself of time.

In this life we have only a matter of time and time is definitely not something that should be fooled around with.

NOW, I GOTTA KEEP IT REAL!!! Otherwise, I wouldn't be myself. I have cheated in many ways. Yet, I do my best not to cheat sexually. If I feel that if I have a sexual interest in another that is much stronger than the individual that I am with, then it is time for me to re-evaluate my relationship. In addition, I have cheated with time and I have learned many lessons in regards to that matter.

Overall, cheating is something that both individuals in a relationship have to agree upon. So, in all actuality I can't break down what cheating is or isn't. That is something that you must sit down and do with your significant other.

Until Next Time,

XOXO
Poster Girl